Children of the Paranormal

Now I’ve already covered children interacting with the paranormal so today I thought we’d go to the other side of the spectrum. No I don’t mean adults, they’re for another day. I mean children that are themselves spirits wandering the land.

ghost childrensFor many people it’s hard to believe that children would stay behind after death. With a short life and for some very tragic ends, what reason would they have to stay. For those that think along these lines I can’t really say I blame them for it. Any sane person would run as far away as they could after dealing with trauma, but there is a problem. Just because you can run from it doesn’t mean that it deals with it. Even the living must eventualy return to the scene of whatever their trauma had been. I see it as the same for spirits since even the dead need closure, even if they passed as children. I can understand why others wouldn’t think they’re really children. Many stories use the “not all as it seems” motif and with spirit children it’s no different. The supposed children being a variety of monster in disguise.

Now take a moment and think of being a ghost child. You have all types of investigators coming in, some are friendly and want to play ball while others scream obscenities. For most sane people (dead or alive) that would cause a serious amount of confusion. I’m not saying some spirits don’t go into disguise but if anyone wants spirits to talk, especially claimed spirit children, I find it a little counter productive to yell at them. Perhaps it’s also I prefer to think of the better situation, that the claimed child is indeed one stuck to the other side.

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That’s one of the sad things about spirit children though, and possibly why some people wouold rather think them to not really exist. Think of it this way, would people go for the scary monster guised as a child or look at a child as see the sadness behind their situation whatever it may be. To answer that theres a reason why movies like Omen and Esther were made. Sort of speaks to the types that make up society, but this is a paranormal blog not a complain about society blog.

Point being though is that while an amount of caution should be taken spirits, tose are the children variety need bomb squad gloves. When coming across them caution is still advised but knowing which wire to “cut” can be a little hard to tell. They could be a spirt disguising themselves or young spirits trying to gain what was denied of them in life. The rest of their childhood.

Images: Ghoststudy.com, Moonslipper.com

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Black eyed kids or a peek into BEK’s

This is a topic mentioned to me by a Mr.Byers. After my topic on Mothman he asked if I had anything on black eyed children. A little perplexed I asked him about it he gave me a link to ufodigest to read on for myself. This is what I’ve learned as well as connecting the dots in my head.

For anyone that has seen the Ju-on* movies will be familiar with the appearance of a BEK, though I don’t believe they’re purely just spirit related. My reason for saying this is that the BEK’s strongly remind me of some books on the paranormal my dad has. When I was little, about six or seven, he’d let me read them and I devoured the information. Due to my limited reading capacity at the time I could only read so much, but there was a passage that stuck with me the most. Don’t worry this anecdote is almost over. The passage in question involved the so called MIB and people that have had them visit into their home. The “guests” would put the home owner in a state of unease in their presence as well as showing ignorance to everyday household items. The reports in the book also stated they were deathly pale and appeared to be wearing make up in an attempt to mimic a more normal appearance. From this between the BEK’s and MIB reported in the book(s) a couple parallels can be drawn.

A) Both appear to be ordinary humans at first. There is a sense of unease about them but until we place our finger on what’s wrong we might ignore it. With the BEK’s it’s when it’s realized their eyes are pitch black, cornea and all. The MIB, depending on who it is (there have to be some human ones in the ranks after all), may show an ignorance of common items or while try to mimic our behaviors but do so in jerky or mechanical way, again creating a sense of unease.

B) A sense of urgency in both. For the BEK’s they attempt to try and enter ones home or vehicle. The reason for such will vary on the situation but the longer they are denied entry the more urgent they become. For the MIB the urgency is in secrecy. Again the situation will vary but the usual cause for their appearance is to enforce some level of secrecy even going so far as to threaten the individuals in question at the time.

To the BEK’s, a connection to them and “classical” vampires can be drawn via the needing an invitation. For me that connection just isn’t there. I’m more inclined to think that they’re more than likely related in some form to extraterrestrials. They tend to pop up around evening and later, much like most ufo sightings. They also have the dark eyes which, for anyone that is familiar with the stereotypical “greys” appearance,  can see similarities there. Perhaps the BEK’s are in disguise to act as scouts for potential marks and for whatever reason they still need their eyes exposed. In to the artical linked below it is stated perhaps the fear they instill in us is sourced to their eyes. Mayhaps if their disguise covered them it would act in a similar way to why they don’t wear sunglasses to cover the unsettling feature. They need us to see their eyes.

However there is one small problem with the BEK’s, or rather the sightings of them. Like many possible spectres of the paranormal, e.t. or spirit,  they fall prey to Hoaxitis. One I’m sure everyone knows of is the famous picture of nessie that turned out to be a modified toy sub. While it lasted it was grand, but once it was shown false the skeptics had many an “I told you so” to rub in. Unless someone has a security camera the time the BEK, or anything else for that matter, comes knocking there will be no real evidence to validate the experience. To make matters worse we are the easiest ones to convince when it comes to something we believe. There was an episode of the Unexplained that put that point across nicely. If everyone will allow me to ramble again the study they performed went as such:

They took a group of people out by some caution tape. Said tape was supposed to be guarding off a fake ufo crash sight. They then took their group and asked them what they saw. Needless to say a majority of the group had fabricated something in their minds, all without meaning to. Their study being a test on the mind and how time affects memory they repeated the questions to the group sixth months later. The earlier fabrications now almost wildly different from before. One of them even stated the fake MP’s there pointed guns at them even though the group hadn’t even gotten anywhere near them to see them.

Now then the point to the secondary anecdote. A portion of all sightings are fake in one form or another. Whether an unintended creation of our own mind or a hoax played on us, we have to accept some aren’t real. I don’t doubt that BEK’s exist just that there is cause to believe that some sightings aren’t credible. That can be said till were all blue in the face though it would change few peoples minds. In the words of my former communications teacher, it’s easier to change someones attitude than it is to change ones beliefs.

Now then, I leave everyone with one last BEK picture because I wanted to shove it in somewhere. I’m off to go read up more information.

Credits : Ju-on the curse,  Spectrumville.net, Mysteriousuniverse.org, and information via http://www.ufodigest.com/news/0806/bek2.html

* The Ju-on movies are the original Japanese “grudge” movies that the American versions were based off of.

But I swear it’s not me! Another children and the paranormal post

I’ve already done a post relating to children and the paranormal, but last night’s episode of Paranormal Witness struck another chord. If you’ve ever seen “A Haunting in Connecticut” from the Discovery channel its a more detailed retelling of that. To cut into what struck me is how when a lot of stories relating to children and the paranormal, why the hell does the parent ignore it. I know the mother knows her mistake now but when something truly, and I mean truly, bothers a child its the parents responsibility to battle back the shadows. I don’t care if it only turns out to be a really ominous jacket or a lump of toys that look like a monster.

Don’t get me wrong here. For the last statement above I know that that’s a portion to why parents don’t take it seriously. Children do have imaginations and can run away with said imagination. The only thing is when there are things beyond a child’s imagination why still ascribe what they see to it? Not all children are into history or violent related subjects, if anything most children would like to avoid the latter. So why is it that when they tell their parents of seeing other people in period dress or bloodied or worse that its just “something they saw on tv”.  If this infuriates me so much I can only imagine how truly frustrated the children feel.

Imagine being a child again and how everything in the dark would turn frightening. The smallest shadow would send pure terror into the core of ones soul. Now take it one more step and tell the parent/guardian what’s been seen. When first told they might brush it off and might even entertain what it might be just to humor the child.  Next few times it bothers them a little bit too and they start prodding the closet to set minds at ease. After the next few times they might grow irritated at the continued information of what the child sees and would soon regulate it to wanting attention. For some parents a little attention showering later, they grow more irritated since they’d see no reason for the child to harp on. At this stage it’s probable that if it is a paranormal, happening things go missing. Result of this is further infuriated parents, demanding items back for which the child had no assistance in there abscontion (hence the title ). Past that point there are many ways it could go depending on the children and parents involved.

Perhaps it’s just because I’m not a parent yet myself when it comes to children. I grew up believing that parents were a child’s knights in shining armor, slashing back the darkness with their imaginary swords. When I was a child things crossed my vision that bothered me as well, I just never told my parents. I couldn’t really tell them though even if I wanted to, but this subject isn’t about me. It also leads me to another one which I’ll need to write about at a later date. Subject in question is about children with mental handicaps and how to deal with them and their purposed encounters. If the average children have difficulty with it I don’t dare imagine the amount of fear and confusion they would feel. Again though, a topic for another time.

To make a small summary of this if something bothers the children take them seriously. I honestly cannot stretch that enough. Even if what they see is just a shadow and only that their fears and feelings should be taken into account. No one wants their child to feel insecure, untrusted, and troublesome for things beyond their control.

Image Credit: Profilingtheunexplained.com, Ghosthuntingtheories.com

Children and the Paranormal

There is a permeating thought among some on how in tuned a child may be to the paranormal. The thought is that because children are so young and indeed still so close to the spirit world, afterlife, what have you that they had been apart of before being born. Others believe it’s because they don’t know better than to see spirits since older children are discouraged in a manner, that ghosts are among the realm of boogeymen. What ever ones belief on how and why children can see those the rest of us rarely can the fact is many children do if in the presence of a spirit.

Image via Terrorsofmen.com

For many children the spirits they see are ascribed as being their imaginary friends by those around them. Just someone to play with and to keep them occupied. Other children become terrified by what they see as shadows flicker about the room, their dolls possessed, and the beats and bangs through the night that they’re certain isn’t the house settling as their parents would claim. I only imagine the kind of torment these children go through mentally. They’re truly unsettled by things  that they don’t understand and as a result of no one else understanding are unable to get any help that they might need. This bewilders me since even if it were the child’s imagination shouldn’t the parent take seriously anything that bothers their child? I dunno I figured that would be parenting 101 right there.

Moving on I know a child with such abilities. I’m going to call her Ginny for her sake. Since she was about seven or eight she has been seeing a shadow man in her room. It’s not every night and when he does appear he merely stands nearby looking down at her. Her parent’s didn’t believe her and in fact demeaned her for it. She’s only been able to talk to me about it and I’ve done my best to give her my advice. Since the man she saw never did anything I told Ginny that she should perhaps tell the spirit to go away. Couple weeks later when he appeared again it seemed to work. Granted there still some activity in her home but she’s dealing with it better now with what guidance I can give. Her parents believe her now too since they’ve come to experience the activity as well.

While in their childhood many children may experience these things. A majority of which have outgrown their ability as they age. As to why the thoughts on it are about the same as to why children did see them in the first place. I’ve told Ginny I hoped that this would happen to her for how much it had disturbed her before. Like stated before she’s about to go into middle school so she isn’t too far off from the “outgrowing” age.  For what guidance I can give I’m not a proper one being that if she doesn’t outgrow this, she’ll need a guide in working through it. I worry about her and many other children since for some malignant spirits they can be easy targets. Granted children sadly are easy in general for them but for those psychically inclined they are even more exposed since they have yet to develop their own mental defense barriers.

To sum up this post up if one has a child or know of one experiencing the paranormal:

A) Do not dismiss them and call their experiences just their imagination. Even if what they experience is just the sweater in the closet do not write off something that may clearly disturb them. That tells them that anything that might truly bother them later would be just as invalid in the mind. If they’re truly disturbed by what they see or here do what you can to comfort them and take it seriously even if it does turn out to be the danged sweater only!

B) If one is the type that is mentally paranormal inclined do not overly encourage the possible psychic nature of the child. After all if it really bothers the child they might not want to see anything of it at all. Also as stated before some children do grow out of it so they might feel pressured later in life to “fake” it, if the ability has dissipated.

C) Do comfort the child in what ways possible. If one has no idea what to do about it due to different beliefs seek the counsel of the nearest parapsychology team. Even if the information received is complete and total utter bull to the belief system of the home, if it comforts the child and helps them through what’s the harm?

In closing do try to be comforting AND considerate of any child experiencing the paranormal. Regardless of whether it’s their imagination or not any parent or guardian should take seriously anything that bothers the child under their care. Also mind that what I stated can be roughly called a loose guide. If things have already escalated in the home it’s about time to contact some help if it hasn’t already been done.